UNSPOKEN WORDS OF MOTHER'S SUFFERING

Being a medical doctor and a counsellor at Srishtilife has given me ample understanding about human emotions. This used to initially be the dynamism of the awareness programs that we conducted as part of Srishtilife and our endeavour to reach out to different cities and states. This resulted in me looking at child sex abuse cases every single day; day in and day out; and looking at the turbulence of emotions.

Looking at the pain, suffering and struggle of mothers has humbled me with humility and the realization of how helpless the mother of today is who is unable to understand the complexity of her own emotions. This has also given me, as a doctor, a deeper understanding of the complexity of the human mind and about our life today.

Many struggling mothers come to us.

Many mothers don't want the father to know......fear of their relationship at stake.

Many mothers don't want the school to know.......fear of child's future at stake.

Many mothers don't want anyone to know.......fear of their social reputation at stake 

They suffer in silence and keep their sufferings to themselves and don’t share this with a single soul. The mother has only pain. Pain because she lost the TRUST in her child. She has lost TRUST in herself as a mother. This is a guilt most mothers carry for a lifetime. They silently suffer the constant pain of not being able to forgive themselves, their child or the situation. The mother’s existence is slowly gnawed away by this pain. This sordid saga of suffering continues as an unending story. 

It makes me ponder when would we have a society where everyone could be free to express and empathize with our fellow human beings; thus connecting us all together as a single race.

There may be many mothers who may not know the intense suffering and guilt that a child can go through simply because the child ACCIDENTALLY TYPED SUNNY LEONE on the internet as she boldly markets herself as the most searched person for her PROFESSIONAL EXCELLENCE (in WHAT???) and your child innocently falls for her charm leading to an addiction to pornography on the internet..... the child will want to get out but may not know how.....

IF WE CAN THINK WHY........? HOW........? would be simple

MY UNSPOKEN WORDS OF SUFFERING.......
THIS CHRISTMAS MY DAUGHTER CLARA AND I DID NOT CELEBRATE........
SUNNY LEONE.... YOU UNKNOWINGLY  BROKE MY HOME......

MAY YOUR CHILD NOT SUFFER LIKE MY CHILD
--PRAYERS FROM CYNTHIA (A True Christian)

DR RAJESHWARI                                            

 (Names changed) 

SUNNY LEONE????????

She has got the LOOKS or something more than LOOKS........

OR PORN THAT HOOKS

......PORNOGRAPHY

An open secret!

Are we cheating ourselves?

Are our children getting cheated?



Pornography and Brain

PORNOGRAPHY

Porne - Prostitute

Graphia - Documentation

Sex is a pleasurable area. Any image of sex creates a  titillating effect in the brain and produces arousal which in turn leads to release of dopamine and other neuro transmitters that gives a feel good factor. Once the individual watches the same pornography, it fails to produce the same titillating effect after some time. Hence, the individual tends to view many more or a higher rated porn the next time to have the same titillating effect, and this continues. The worst of pornography is violence, brutal, and………sex with young asian children or……..a cry of a ……..

It was horrifying in our experience to know that porn comes in different category,

• RAPE CATEGORY
• HUMILIATION CATEGORY
• ABUSE CATEGORY
• CRIME CATEGORY
• SEX EXPLOITATION CATEGORY

Watching porn by normal people  abnormally may probably be one of the instinct,  abnormal behaviors elicited by the so called NORMAL people. As an abuser grooms a child into the abuse that an INNOCENT CHILD falls as a prey for the ABUSER.

Pornography is easily available, cheap and even approved  as many don’t  consider it  harmful  but it is proved in many research studies  with functional MRI  that the neurons fired in the ventral striatum, the reward center of  the brain in porn addicts are high. Pornography has become an easy substitute to kill boredom, rejoicing relationship, venting out of exhaustion, frustration, cool thing, peer pressure, curiosity...........just because sunny leone ....porn star.

Everything said and done in simple words......
IF WE APPROVE ABNORMAL SEX AS NORMAL.......
CONSEQUENCE.........CHILD SEX ABUSE.
PORN MAY BE CHEAP. 

WE HAVE TO PAY A HIGH COST (OUR  CHILDREN ).

SEX SELLS!! IT’S JUST THAT THE BUYERS ARE OUR CHILDREN.

SUNNY LEONE  IT MAY NOT BE THE LOOKS......PORN THAT HOOKS

Should we say it is OK ... connect children and technology?

Should we say it is OK ..connect technology and porn?

Should we say it is OK to pornography and children?

Should we say it is OK to "We don’t know what to do"?
PORN INDUSTRY.....HUGE .....

THERE IS A WAY OUT...write to us.. BE AN INDIAN.
TO HAVE INDIAN CHILDREN FREE OF SEX ABUSE.

An expression from 
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ARE WE EQUIPPED TO CHANGE THE LIFE STYLE OF OUR CHILD.

ARE WE EQUIPPED TO CHANGE THE LIFE STYLE OF OUR CHILD

Physical health is definitely under risk with unhealthy BMI, reduced immunity,TYPE 2 diabetes, fitness problems. There is something more serious that accompanies the physical health problems... the mental health hazard.

OUR OBSERVATIONS AND CHILDREN'S RESPONSE IN OUR  WORKSHOPS

•          GADGETS  DISCONNECTS  THE CHILD FROM  OUTER WORLD.
•          VIRTUAL SCORES OF GAME  TAKES THE CHILD AWAY FROM REAL GAMES.
•          CHILD  ENDS UP SPENDING A LOT OF TIME  NON  PRODUCTIVE.

A GADGET IS A COMMERCIAL OBJECT. IT IS MADE TO SELL.

WE BUY NOT JUST THE GADGETS BUT ITS DISADVANTAGES. 

 THE GADGET MADE AND SOLD , SO THAT IT KILLS OUR CHILDREN'S BOREDOM.
WE BOUGHT IT AND KILLED THE HEALTHY LIFESTYLE OF OUR CHILDREN.

- THE CHILDREN UNDERSTOOD,THEIR BRAIN AND ITS FUNCTION...........SIMPLE PRESENTATION.

FUN FILLED ACTIVITIES TO TAKE
RESPONSIBILITIES.

INTENSE UNDERSTANDING OF CONSEQUENCE.







A PROMISE TO KEEP AND TO WORK.

VIDEO GAMES ARE NOT THE ONLY FUN

THEY  SAID

"TO  BRING  JOY IS FUN"

THEY FIGURED OUT WHAT TO DO, WHEN TO DO ,HOW TO DO, WHY TO DO.


EXPERT
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CELEBRATING LIFE

                                      CELEBRATING SRISHTI OUR LIFE

                                                                                      Life is always about to care to share.

My daughter Srishti is a miracle for me, to deliver an angel after 7yrs of married life. Dr.Raji was a beautiful guide who gave me the angel and I still remember the first day that she told .....
"ONCE A MOTHER ALWAYS A MOTHER".

Her way of thinking was so beyond my thought but now I really understand how futuristic she thought and yet she had made it so simple by 'science of emotions' .


My first moment with Srishti

Our present moment with Srishti





A moment captured with Raji

                                                                                    With all men in dhoti and women in  kanchipuram saree reminded me about the movie “Three men and a baby ” .
 It was"7 COUPLE AND SRISHTI LIKE 7 COLORS IN RAINBOW".

A DAY TO CHERISH ,REMEMBER , CELEBRATE.

Everything that we achieve , win,fail or work is directly proportionate to our emotions.                       One such views of her was the intense conversation that

 "THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD IS RESPONSIBLE ADULT".
 It was Srishti’s Birthday. Every year we had a context for birthday
.This time it was VEDAS/VALUES .Being the daughter of Saritha and Sharath my daughter was so beautiful as Saritha’s daughter that nobody could differentiate that I was the biological one in the pooja. 

To have responsible adults does not mean that who can contribute to my child , but what can I do so that you will be in my child’s life . It is an invitation for every one who is reading this mail .

 There can't be anything bigger than to be just being alive on this planet EARTH.


SRISHTI'S ACCOMPLISHMENTS

• SPEAKER AT SRISHTILIFE
• WORKS FOR ABUSED CHILDREN REHABILITATION
• HAS NEVER BEEN ON ANY MEDICATION
• LEARNT ALPHABETS WITHOUT TEACHING
• POWER TO THINK AND ARTICULATES
• LEARNING UPANISHADS

Thank you Raji  and you will always be there with us as inspiration in my SRISHTI is a reminder of you.
NISHA(SRISHTI'S BIOLOGICAL MOTHER)

SARITHA(SRISHTI'S REAL MOTHER)

kisi ki nazar na lagein.......

Leadership & Responsibility Training for CHILDREN

Leadership & Responsibility Training [LRT] for CHILDREN

-A child is a divine potential to manifest,

 An arrow to reach its unique destination, It is the responsibility of the bow to bend to bring out the optimum. The bow is the knowledge that makes the child to aspire and be inspired of the goal.

-The work shop creates how a child can give his/her best for its excellence with optimum and appropriate use of intelligence with ease.

-A work shop for the children for the school going age group children. 

-Every child is unique and un-comparable expression of nature.

-Every child is a divine potential to manifest.

-Every parent’s only wish is for their child to accomplish.

-Even a child's brain goes through “Toxic stress” in brain that makes the child irritable, upset, angry or silent in its budding tender growing state.

1.Interest of learning

2.Owning responsibility — health & academics

3.Excelling with optimum focus

4.Responsibility with game/leisure

5.Leader ship/ team spirit

6.Bringing joy of being a child

SHIFT FROM TEACHING TO LEARNING

:-)  CREATIVITY - A CHOICE OF A CHILD :-)

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URGENT ....ARE WE INSENSITIVE TO SENSITIVITY

ARE WE INSENSITIVE TO SENSITIVITY.

Are we getting immune to child sexual assault?

Are we getting blind to horror?

Are we getting numb to pain?

Are we casual about it?

Are we only talking, not acting?

Are we so busy with work?

Are we missing out 

HUMANNESS IN HUMANBEING?

Reality:

·       3 months back 6 thousand              *Child was not clear.

    parents took to street.

·       1 week back not even 600 moved.  *Child said bad uncle.

·       1 day back …… ?                              *Child was clear .

ARE WE STUCK TO WHAT WE ARE DOING RATHER THAN WHAT WE NEED TO DO.

Our observation

Our children need more than just CCTV,security,just talking.

Our children need our collective intelligence.

LET US CONNECT,
LET US BE AWARE,
LET US ACT.

LET US PREVENT

NISHA

SRISHTI TEAM    

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THIS DIWALI GIFT YOUR CHILD SAFETY

Greetings on Narakachathurdasi ,

NARAKASURA IS THE ASURA (IGNORANCE) IN US, 

KNOWLEDGE IS THE WEAPON AGAINST THE ASURA.

Yet another tragedy,

Yet another pain,

Yet another child,

The Truth again stays in DARKNESS,

On the eve of festival of LIGHTS.

The child lights up the life of a family

It’s really cruel , inhuman and pathetic

If we cannot provide SAFETY.

Know more about safety of your child and your child’s world

In our NEW CHILDREN’S WORKSHOP, PARENTING WORKSHOP.

To prevent abuse and assure safety.

- Nisha

  Srishti Team.

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FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS , FESTIVAL OF GIFTS, GIFT SAFETY

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LET OUR CHILD BE IN 47% AND SAFE .....ONLY WAY OUT IS TO EQUIP YOURSELF IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD

LET OUR CHILD BE IN 47% AND SAFE .....ONLY WAY OUT IS TO EQUIP YOURSELF IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD

·         BEING IN DENIAL THE ACCEPTED PHENOMENON.

·         BEING WEAK SUCH A STRONG PHENOMENON.

·         BEING  DISCONNECTED  THE LATEST CONNECTING PHENOMENON.

·         SHIFTING RESPONSIBILITY THE RESPONSIBLE PHENOMENON.

FOR ONCE DARE TO LOOK AT REALITY

·    THE CHILD SEX ABUSE OF INDIA BY WOMAN AND CHILD HEALTH IS 53%.....IT COULD BE MORE.

·         WE  ARE NOT EQUIPPED WITH KNOWLEDGE ON CHILD SEX ABUSE.

·         WE ARE TOO HESITANT TO SPEAK.

·         WE ARE IGNORANT WITH EVEN TEACHING THE NAME OF PRIVATE PART RESPONSIBLY.

FOOD FOR YOUR THOUGHT.

IF YOUR CHILD FALLS IN 53%......YOU NEED TO ADDRESS TO CURE YOUR CHILD

IF YOUR CHILD FALLS IN 47%......YOU NEED TO ADDRESS TO PREVENT ABUSE.

TODAY IS THE DAY ,WORK IT OUT OR IT WILL BE TOO LATE.

LET OUR CHILD BE IN 47% AND SAFE .....

ONLY WAY OUT IS TO EQUIP YOURSELF, IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD.

EXPERT

SRUSHTILIFE

TALK TO THE CHILD ON SEXUALITY AND NOT SEX… THAT iS THE SOLUTION

TALK TO THE CHILD ON SEXUALITY AND NOT SEX…

THAT iS THE SOLUTION

A breather and an assurance to say we care for the future when media is partnering for the cause to see that the future of India is safe. An action, a path way to walk our children to safety in the chaos of the present scenario, where parents and teachers are grappling of what to say and how to say when abusers are grooming our children via technology( porn) .

Reasons for the chaos / crisis.

IRONIES :

1)      We hesitate to even utter the name “sex” in the name of culture,unspoken,its wrong,

….......

IRONY - Reality is that Abnormal sex (porn) is available for free in the bedroom and for a Ten Rupee as a download at cybercafé where the children hover and share among themselves.

2)      We donot talk on responsibility on sexuality.

IRONY - Abuser demonstrates sex as pleasurable, while we talk about dis ease. Abuser demonstrates abnormal Sex (porn) as pleasurable!

3)      We have no time for talking or even listening about Child Sex Abuse.

IRONY – Abuser or the Online perverts has all the time online with the child.

4)      We have confusion or argument on what to talk.

IRONY – Abuser or the Online perverts trains the child on how to act (abnormal sex) often using technology (porn)

5)      When we talk we talk on sex that provokes unnecessary curiosity and concern with the child.

IRONY – Abuser or the Online perverts talks on sexuality that comes with comfort and ease .Hence the child is receptive.

Abuser knows psychology of the child more than the Parent.

He acts with Negative Intelligence and we react with Emotions.

Intelligence always wins and the trophy is our children.

It is time for schools and parents to partner in responsibility rather than shift responsibility.

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Expert

Srishti Life

THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD IS RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.

PAVITHRA THE COMMITTED MOTHER

It was a beautiful drive early in the morning from Bangalore to Tirupattur a small town of Tamil Nadu. The dawn was at its beautiful best, it looked like the trees and plants with blossoms were just waking up to welcome the radiant glowing sun. We crossed Karnataka and entered Tamil Nadu. The sign board and the road demarcated the different state but not nature. l smiled and turned towards the window to breathe the wild fresh air that brushed through my hair. To my surprise there were bikers who were driving past us all so synchronized. We smiled and waved to them like little children.

      Pavithra was waiting for us at the village. A typical village like the one we see in a primary text book. A cow, hen with chicken, bullock cart, small temple, hay stacked and little children running behind our vehicle during their play. Pavithra had done our workshop (she had hypertension in her first pregnancy, delivered a preterm baby girl by cesarean and was now stressed about her second pregnancy). She received us with joy carrying her second son who was born healthy by normal delivery. Her smile expressed everything gratitude connect and commitment.

               There was a bigger surprise for us as we began the workshop on the responsibility of children. Every word in their local language Tamil and Neuropsychology in simple language to be understood. The magic of our work was splendid!! The response was profound. Senior teachers owned up on their responsibility, people came together for the cause. The owner of venue refused to take money as he felt that was how he would be contributing for the cause.

                In all this, our little 4 months old hero was in the hall for the whole day. The bubbly little one was laughing, happy, healthy and playful and was sleeping in comfort and safety in the laps of those women who loved him like their child simply because Pavithra had created her relationship with these women like sisters.

A true demonstration of what we say, "THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD IS RESPONSIBLE ADULTS."

                                             

  Well done Pavithra!!

NISHA

A FULFILLING EXPERIENCE IN THE SCHOOL

The journey for us in the social service throws many challenges, however the joy of meeting like minded people “committed for the children” gives us a breather in this chaotic situation. With incidence of Child Sex Abuse rising and most of us unaware about what is happening, this subject only brings anxiety and fear.

Being at ST. Pauls School was an awesome experience. We liked the commitment. And the way teachers, Principal and the school Staff showed absolute integrity, also an unmatched smooth functioning with children, a true combination of brilliance with values.

A fulfilling day indeed, with an excellent completion when principal handed over a token of appreciation (Ganesha painting)

YOUR HOSPITALITY AND COFFEE WAS AWESOME

Like how your students say:

EAST OR WEST

ST PAULS IS THE BEST

TEACHERS KEEP IT UP: THE SOCIETY NEEDS TEACHERS LIKE YOU ALL  

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HE GAVE IN SOCIAL SERVICE TO RECIEVE IN PUBLIC SERVICE

We are back after our short break due to the health concern of our most special person and source of

 Srishti Life.

We invited Bujji Babu from Gollaprolu a remote town of East Godavari in Andhra. He visited us with his entire family (parents, Sister and her family with her children Poojitha (age Eleven) and Abhiram (age Seven).

Yes this is how in Srishtilife we Connect and hence create responsible individuals around us. It is important for everyone to own up responsibility for their children.“EVERY CHILD IS EVERYONE’S CHILD AND EVERY CHILD IS SAFE”.”

He contributed his time in a most profound way towards a child and family who are our friends.

That difference that made a difference to that family. Bless you and the universe blesses you, in the small town of Andhra

Just to pick the newspaper to see his name is BOLD as the BOLD AND HONEST OFFICER. [It indeed takes a life time to get acknowledged by media]. 

We salute you INSPECTOR. "YES SIR":) we are coming to your town to create safety for your children, Parents to Partner rather than being irresponsible and being in DENIAL.

We bless the children of your family that they be safe.

SRISHTI TEAM

On Tue, Sep 9, 2014 at 9:0

A WORD MEANS A WORLD

      

HURT & HEARD BOTH IN THE WORLD OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 

??? HOW DO WE MAKE CHILDREN TAKE RESPONSIBILITY...

WE MOTHERS COMPLIMENTED OTHER MOTHERS.

WE RECEIVED AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT FROM ANOTHER MOTHER.

We as a team contribute our time, energy and effort generously. Many a times it leaves us exhausted and drained to see Bangalore city has moved on after ONE month of the incident.We continued in our mission with our vision to have a world safe for children. We had our moment of rejoice that made us feel that every moment invested in this mission is worth it.

In our workshop for parenting present was the mother of Aditya (who is studying in presidency school). The mother came to the workshop and shared that how her son told his Grandmother that she can’t apply oil to the private part, as nobody other than his mother could see his private part.She was amazed to see her son speak with clarity on the safety points that is mandatory as he has taken responsibility that is very different from giving responsibility. At the end of the day the fulfilled mother left thanking us that she now has access to such simple ways to parenting, a complex skill made easy that leaves every parent with a breather at the same time with subtle humility that there is so much to know and understand in the skill of parenting if we want our child to excel and be a responsible human being in the future.

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THE CONTRIBUTING LEADERS IN THE AREA OF CHILD SEX ABUSE COMING UP WITH…

Workshop On….. PARENTING : AN ART AND SCIENCE

 • A child is the most special person of your life 

• Its safety is your ultimate priority 

• You are its ultimate source 

SRISHTI LIFE can be your resource to create responsibility in

• Health 

• Time 

• Academics 

• Moralistic 

• Sexuality 

You are the guide, we can be your guide line in giving you an easy access to its psychology 

Workshop On PARENTING 

16th Aug 2014

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